Last night, The Brain asked me if I had any ideas for Valentine's Day, or if I just wanted him to make a stab in the dark and come up with something woefully inadequate. It was kind of a joke, because we normally just decide on something to do together... but we had been listening to a radio show earlier, where people were calling in and decidedly saying that Valentine's Day is about men doing something for women. And NOT the other way around. I'm not sure I really agree with that, but it does seem to be the general consensus these days.
I know that I tread on thin ice when talking about Valentine's Day gifts. This is one of those holidays where men are in this giant conundrum, where "getting it right" doesn't seem to be on the list of options. Flowers and candy are trite, perfume is only good if you get the right one, and lingerie yells - hey! this gift looks like it's for you, but (if you'll wear it), it's really for me.
Here's a little tip, though, for my male readership. (Umm yeah, both of you.) Most women just want to be thought about in some personal way.
Most of us don't need a huge show of roses to prove that you remembered Valentines Day. I would so much rather have one single flower of my very favorite kind. (hint- think Gerbera Daisies) And honest to goodness, if you bought a little bunch, and kept them hidden in the garage, "bringing home" one a day for 5 or six days? We'd think you were amazingly romantic. (ummm, keep them in water, though, and if your garage freezes, you might need to find a different hiding place. Just sayin'.)
If you get the perfume wrong, you're in trouble, but how about something with less commitment? Maybe body wash and spray from Bath and Body Works or Victoria's Secret. Look around. What scents are in your bathroom right now? Get something similar. (think floral, fruity, or spicy.)
If food is her thing - chocolate strawberries are a great bet. They're much more romantic than a box of chocolates. (just make sure she likes strawberries first, ok?) Dipping then yourself adds a personal and romantic touch, but you only get extra points for that if you clean up the kitchen when you're done.
If you want to go for the foolproof gift? Write her a letter with five reasons - listed in your very own handwriting - about why you love her. And at least two of them should not be applicable to most adult females in the world. (ie: you smell good, you're soft...)
I'm just pointing out that I don't think it has to be as difficult as we sometimes make it. Women leave a little bread crumb trail of clues every day. The trick is to just see what she likes, and do that.
(OHHHH! Just do what she likes! Why didn't anyone tell you that before, right?)
Being romantic for women is easy. Not like shopping for men. Now THERE's a conundrum.