Monday, August 25, 2008

Husband Hero


Have you heard about this new service, Husband Hero?

I've read the website thoroughly, and I'm still trying to decide how I feel about it.

Basically, it's a subscription for your husband that will send him a once a month email giving him romantic ideas to try. There's also a page that he can have you (his wife) fill in so that he has all your preferences. It lists things like; favorite flower, food, love song, movies, etc. That way if he wants to surprise you with a dinner or an activity, he can at least have a shot at doing something you like. You can also list some dates that you like to celebrate, and the site will email him reminders for those.
And then he can be your hero!!!

Like I said, I'm not sure how I feel about it.

On one hand, sparking some creative and different ideas would be a really REALLY good thing. And as much as I'd love to think that after 25 years of marriage we should know enough about each other think up little pleasant surprises, I'm not really sure that's the case. We've had a lot of Friday date nights where we've sat around like the buzzards in Jungle Book, asking each other,
"Hey, man, what do you want to do? I dunno, what do you want to do?"

It would be positively refreshing for one of us to have a PLAN. You know, put some effort into it?

On the other hand, if he started doing fun, creative, romantic ideas, I guess I'd feel like I should do the same. And friends, I searched and searched, and there is NO "Wife Hero" website, to give me a couple of pointers once a month. I think there are plenty of women who might pay for this service as well, don't you?

Hey, maybe we could start a site! We could call it Wonder Wife, and we could send monthly ideas about ... you know...
about the regular 2 things that make men feel happy and loved.




Those monthly emails are gonna get a little tricky, aren't they?




Well, it was mainly the business name I liked, anyway. We can work out the details later.

27 comments:

Becky said...

You know those getting-to-know-you emails that periodically circulate among the masses? My husband actually printed mine off because it asked questions like:
What's your favorite snack?
What's your favorite restaurant?
What do you like to do in your spare time?

So now he has some ideas in a handy spot in case he's feeling clueless. It's kinda cute!

I'm with you, though - Wonder Wife might not take off in the same way... :)

Kimberly said...

Wow. Isn't that cheating?

Vern said...

Where do you find this stuff?? And can I be your poster child for the Wonder Wife one? I'm envisioning my picture in the middle of a black circle with a red line through it.

Stephanette said...

Cajun Man is pretty good at little things. I usually plan events. It would be fun to have something to spark his imagination.

On a side note, you didn't have to deal with tornadoes, did you? I wasn't sure by the news this morning.

JustRandi said...

Kim - I don't know... Is it cheating if he puts the dates in his PDF and it reminds him?
Or if someone at work tells your husband about a time he left flowers all over the house for his wife, and your husband wants to try that?
I think it's the same thing, only more organized.

The only REAL problem I would have with it is telling The Brain about the service. Because that would be kinda like telling him he isn't really getting the job done.

And then like I said before, I have to admit that I'M not really getting the job done either. I really DO think it's a 2 way street.

JustRandi said...

Nope, no tornadoes here. They were all to the south. Thanks for checking in, though.

Dave said...

Um, I can think of some ideas on how to be Wonder Wife without needing an email reminder.

How about:
Do most of the work in raising our kids into kind, loving, beautiful people.

Keeping a home organized, neat, and clean amid the chaos of taking care of three boys(yes, the husband counts as one of the kids most of the time).

Cleaning up the puke (or any other qualifying bodily fluids) at 2:30 in the morning.

Or sleeping sitting up in the chair so your baby can breathe through his snotty nose.

I'm just saying, most wives I know, especially mine, already qualify for the Wonder Wife award just by doing what they do on a regular basis.

Heather said...

That is hilarious!

mormonhermitmom said...

I think I finally hit the nail on the head when I started thanking my hubby for EVERYTHING he did that helped me out, no matter how small. Unfortunately with our young family, there are no surprises unless we plan them, thus negating the surprise. Maybe when the kids are out of the house...

linzipoo said...

My husband and I didn't have an official date until after we were married. Sad, I know, but that's how the ball dropped for us. (I was a divorced, single mom working full time and dealing with the recent death of my mom. Busy, hectic days.)

So, after our one date in two years of marriage, and popping two children from my body, I lost it. That is, he was getting ready to deploy and thought a date to the bowling alley would be sufficient for a farewell outing. (Remember, it was to be our SECOND date ever and the last for at least 7 months.)

I made him drive me to the closest LDS book store where we bought "How to Date Your Wife". It has loads of ideas and sparked many conversations about likes, dislikes and what's appropriate for different occasions.

I think it may save my sanity. I don't mind clueing him in since the only way I can get my needs met is to let him know what they are.

We'll see how well he's marked it up when he gets home in 2 months. He did read it, I know. He had to so I'd let him back in the house. :)

jjstringham said...

Considering the fact that my husband FORGOT MY BIRTHDAY, I am emailing him this site as we speak.

Melissa said...

Yeah... well, let's see. We have been married for 10 years. So, the last 10 birthdays have pretty much been forgotten. I usually have to tell him exactly what I want. He doesn't seem to understand the whole "surprise me" thing. Maybe if he had a list of "surprise me" items, he might a little better... maybe :)

Yvonne said...

Do you really think a website like that would help--the husband hero, that is??? I'm all for just saying--"Hey, what are we going to do for my birthday tomorrow?" That way--I'M NEVER DISAPPOINTED ; )

We always talk about the new movies that are coming out--so we both know what we might like to see.

About those 2 things that make men feel happy and loved, well...

Heather of the EO said...

I kind of like this husband hero thing. I have a great husband hero right here, but he like most men I know, has trouble multi-tasking (which leaves them forgetting to plan things.) I understand that. And I'm not even saying that as some sort of put-down. My husband is randomly spontaneous at times too. He's a husband hero no matter what, but I suppose this site could make a few fun improvements. :)

ganelle said...

It's an interesting idea. Although I prefer making my husband read my mind. However, the wife hero thing? Two things that will make your husband feel loved? Don't we already KNOW the answer to that?

The Dillon 6 said...

hmmmm...I don't know. Seems like a piece of paper with that info would be just as good...and a nudge from Outlook, too...? I just don't know...but I can't wait to hear what you decide. ;)

mindyluwho said...

Love the idea of Husband Hero, unfortunately my husband doesn't use the computer so it wouldn't work...unless I just printed out the ideas for him...hmmmm.

Lisa said...

Okay I just found Husband Hero yesterday (on Normal Mormon Husbands) and have been mulling a post on my own blog about it and YOU STOLE MY BEST IDEA!!! I even have a clip of the buzzards asking each other what to do... dang it! So now it's gonna look like I totally scammed it off your blog! Maybe I'll wait a week.

Anyway - my reaction was exactly the same as yours, justrandi - the spark of "ooh, this could be helpful" and then the "hmmm. will I wonder if everything he does and says to me is just parroting an email suggestion?"

My husband snorted when I showed him the site. Still, I like the concept of the site, in general.

Amy Peterson said...

It all comes down to love languages doesn't it? He just needs a little help knowing what should happen that falls within my category! I think it's a great idea!

Jen said...

2 things! Men are simple creatures. Mine is. :) That's not a complaint.

kristen said...

How sad that men are going on-line to learn how to date. It either shows how pathetic they've become or how demanding we women are. (Don't get me wrong....men should remember important dates and take his wife out.)

I'm kinda with you randi....it would make a man feel like he isn't doing his job and is a lousy husband or something.

Amy Peterson said...

My husband said, " Oh yea that sounds like a GREAT idea, I would love to pay someone $15 a year to remind me each week just how lame I am!"

Nancy Face said...

I'm with Yvonne...I don't wait for my hubby to come up with a surprise for me. I tell him what I want, and then I GET what I want...and I end up happy, never disappointed! :)

Jill said...

If husbands would just read our minds like they're supposed to, then this service wouldn't be needed ;0)

Whitney said...

Good idea! While I was reading this I was thinking "dang, but what about ideas for me? I don't want my hubby to feel like he has to do all the work!" You're a genius :) But you're also right, what more DO they want besides...you know ;)

No Cool Story said...

ITA with Jen.
Wife Hero would have only two ideas.
;)
And the second one would be food.

No Cool Story said...

I kind like the idea of a couple theme thing.
We also sit around on Friday night saying "what do you wanna do?" DUH!